You Are Who Your Friends Are
by Jack Canfield
It is important to acknowledge the power of positive thinking. This goes not only for yourself, but also for the people you surround yourself with. Attitudes are catchy. Whether they are positive or negative, they are rubbing off on you. If you are around people who complain, judge, spread negative gossip, blame others, and play victim roles, chances are you do, too.
Who are you around most often? Are they achieving their dreams or complaining about their circumstances? Do they look up to others who are go-getters and high achievers, or do they make fun of them and roll their eyes? How do they treat you? If you are spending time with people who do not support your dreams and goals, it’s seriously time to look at whom you call your friends!
Successful people surround themselves with successful people! They want to be around others who are achieving their goals and making things happen for themselves. They want to know their secrets and strategies for winning. They are not embarrassed to be hanging out with the “nerds” of this world who are studying for success and making good money.
You, too, need to surround yourself with positive influences! Join the clubs that other successful people are in, learn what they are learning, act how they act, and talk how they talk. It doesn’t matter from what walk of life you are coming from. Show up and transform yourself into an achiever! Success is not just for those who have had it easy, who came from supportive homes or had expensive educations. There are so many successful people who rose up from very poor conditions and overcame obstacles to achieve the goals they had their sights set on. But they did not get there by hanging out with negative energy drainers!
Have you been limiting your success by letting yourself be influenced by other people’s negative energy? Make a list of all the people you spend time with and make a note of the kind of personality they have. How many negative people are you around every day? How many people on your list are achieving their dreams, are supporting yours, and are taking responsibility for their lives? You’re better off spending time alone than with people who hold themselves back with a victim mentality.
Simply stop spending time with the negative people on your list. Join the clubs that will put you in with a positive circle of friends. Set a new standard for yourself and don’t become friends with people who fall below that standard. Invite your old friends to come with you and you’ll know who has potential and who to stop being around entirely.
You have to take responsibility for this area of your life. Look around you at the people you call friends, you act just like them! Does it make you proud? Are you selling yourself short? Or are you on the right track? Keep successful people around you and will you be successful! Be around people who can accomplish their goals and you will accomplish yours! The choice is yours to make.
Happiness is Yours for the Taking
by Chris Widener
But so many seem without happiness. Why is this? Is happiness truly elusive or do we simply not know how to take hold of it? It is my contention that happiness is yours for the taking. That is, anyone can be happy if they choose to be… and if they know how to get it.
So what does it take to bring us to a state of happiness? Here are a few thoughts to get you on your way:
Do not try to control circumstances. One of the biggest “happiness busters” I see is in the frustration people experience (and wallow in) because circumstances have gone awry. This is because their mind-set, whether they know it or not, is that they should be somehow able to control circumstances. But let’s get this straight: You can’t! So the first thing you can do to give yourself happiness is to stop trying to control, or taking responsibility for circumstances that are outside of your control! Focus all of your attention on developing yourself and doing what is right – controlling yourself while letting what will happen, happen – and you will find happiness opening up within you.
Decide what it is that you want out of life and then stick to it relentlessly. This is two parts: First, know what you want. Get real clear with yourself. Take a private retreat to be alone if you have to, but come to grips with what you want your life to look like.
Secondly, devote yourself to that passion and do not be sidetracked. It is interesting to me how many options we have – good options – that if we pursue them they will actually crush our happiness because they will take us away from what will really make us happy.
Live for a legacy. We cannot be self-absorbed and live only for ourselves. Yes, we only control ourselves, but we can live for the betterment of others. Live your life in such a way that others are touched; and you will find yourself feeling happiness in ways that you could never imagine. For example, I get some of the most touching emails from people I have never met (and probably never will) who tell me how I have helped them. There is little else that brings me such happiness!
Settle your finances. Whatever your financial goals are, get them! Having poor finances is one of the major causes of unhappiness. Now, some people are completely content on $30,000 a year. Others need $200,000 a year. That is okay. We all have different desires, needs, and goals. But the key is to know what you want your financial life to look like and then do what it takes to get there. Among the major things to do is to eliminate as much debt as possible, if not all!
Surround yourself with good friends. Good friend are such a blessing! I have some of the most intelligent, capable, successful, and caring friends a person could have. I have three or four people in my life that I completely trust and admire. When friendships are clicking, there is almost nothing that provides more happiness. Take time to develop your friendships. Spend time with them, do fun things with them, etc. Even as life gets more and more busy, make time with your friends a priority.